Monday, September 30, 2013

The Ole Ball n' Chain

I knew this would happen - I knew the honeymoon would end.  I had been sort of floating on this belief/desire to finish and having a more immediate deadline kept it fresh and relevant to me.  But I also had a new routine (new job), new things to get used to: and for me, that means new energy.  Simultaneously I needed to create a consistent schedule; input some structure.  And while I'm sure I'm not the only one, I feel sort of ridiculous for how often I chide myself for being so inconsistent, so wishy washy, so needy but so unwilling to ask for help... I mean, who would I ask for help anyways?  At this point, I have all the structures and supports in place, it is the damned writing that needs to be done.

I am an extremist - I am either wide awake or dozing off; exercising every day or taking a one-month (or more) sabbatical; up early and to bed late or up late and to bed early.  And in this case: writing every day or not at all.  I've fallen into a not at all. Which is killer.  Killer.  I no longer hate my dissertation. I've come to terms with it in that I need to finish it and it will get done but somehow those cheers last until about 8:30pm when I "conveniently" find other tasks -no joke; seriously- just as important but tasks I might have gotten done at other points of the day.

And the extremist in me knew that the moment I conceded that I could not get this done in my 75 day challenge - the minutes after typing that I couldn't meet my 2013 challenge - the seconds after I decided working out would be allowable in my schedule... that I would lose focus; that my social calendar would fill up (whose doesn't during the holidays - sheesh, it is crazy!); that my dissertation would - once again - be an ole ball n' chain that I drag around constantly reminding me of what I've not yet done, and smothering me with guilt every day I fail to write.

Luckily, I joined a PhD forum that promotes a week of accountability each month.  There is just enough "spice" to it that it is something new that gets me going, but it is also a constant, monthly event that I can plan.  http://www.phdforum.co.uk/ in case anyone would like to see what it's about.  So, I got done tonight what I should have gotten done about a week ago, but I won't let that derail me.  I will work throughout this week - day by day - and will take it for what it's worth.  Life is a constant struggle and this dissertation lends me no release to such a theory.

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